Ride On

I learned a lot about myself the other day.  My daughter and I had been dreaming of going horseback riding together for a long time. Impatiently, in February, she would beg me to go. I would call the riding stables and get the inevitable answer, “It’s too cold.”  She had almost given up hope. Not until this week did I finally make the call again, and found the right stable (Heartland Equestrian) to make our dream come true.

heather and nevada in stable

I had also “gotten off my horse” in other ways. After a successful run last year of Evolutionary Woman workshops, and a retreat, I was buzzing with how much I could do. But the inevitable creature of doubt proceeded to chip away at my confidence again, as Christmas turned into New Years and New Years into Spring.  Like the horse that I didn’t ride all winter, she was still waiting for me. Other things distracted me, some fun, and some responsibility.

krista on bella 2

But here I am again, facing that wide saddle, that devilish creature unknown to me. Will it buck me off, will it rub its face into my neck, will we be friends? Or will I run the other way screaming, “Help! Get me off this thing!”

Metaphors are funny, I know. They can turn the other way, and they don’t always work perfectly.  But the truth is, I did get back on.  And this creature was unknown to me, but I wasn’t.  That creature was me!


Here are some things I learned while riding my horse, Bella, English style (new to me):

  1.  I have to be the rider! No huffing and hawing, no more daydreaming or we’ll be off in the bushes.
  2. The instructor said “visualize a circle” and lead her around the cones. If you think it with your mind, your body and the horse will follow.
  3. Sometimes the steering is counter-intuitive. If I want to go left I push with my right leg, and vice versa. A new way of being.
  4. Talk to the horse so she knows what you’re doing, so you don’t startle her. Same with people.
  5. Care for the horse before and after, brushing, saddling and cleaning out the hooves – it builds trust, it’s a relationship.heather trotting with nevada
  6. Walk before you run (or trot). It’s harder than you think. The hardest lessons are the basics. Master them first.
  7. If you’re ready to trot, give a little kick (start), then hang on to the reigns (but not too tightly or you’ll stop!)
  8. The hardest part is to keep going without falling off.
  9. Afterwards you’re going to sleep like a rock. And you’re going to be sore for days. But you’ll feel great.
  10. Keep going back. Eventually you’ll be riding into the sunset.

I don’t know if I’ll ever be a horsewoman, but I learned something about myself as a rider. My life can be a perfect circle, one of the hardest thing to master, if I just keep it simple, keep command of myself, and stay on the course in front of me.  Maybe I haven’t experienced freedom yet, the hair blowing in the breeze, the confidence and ease, because it’s all new to me.

But someday, I will be going through that open field with the world in front of me…

heather and minis

P.S. My daughter proudly pointed out that she was a better trotter than me. She could trot effortlessly. And she loved the “minis”.  As we left we smelled the air and enjoyed a perfect sunset. It was heaven. And yes, we’ll be going back again. 🙂


3 Responses to Ride On

  1. Erin says:

    This is a very good entry. Lots of life lessons to be had and applied.

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