On Golden Ground

Last week I landed on one of the most universal, timely teachings imaginable – And it came just in the nick of time!  It is so simple it is almost heart-breaking.  Who doesn’t need this? It is truly the essence of what miracles mean to me. And quite possibly, what miracles mean to you.

Do you want to know what it is?

But first, an example, or two!

 

Have you ever been in any of these situations or felt any of these impulses?

Conflict between man and woman

  • Fighting with spouse or partner  
  • Not understanding your children’s behavior/perspective
  • Angry about the mess or corruption of politics, politicians or partisan groups 
  • Feeling cheated by another financially or emotionally
  • Identifying with a particular group at the exclusion of another (superiority/inferiority)
  • Feeling misunderstood, criticized, or demoralized by another
  • Wanting revenge, gossiping or celebrating the misfortune of another (even if it’s reversal of fortune/karma, not by your own hand)
  • Noticing conflict in your world and wondering why people can’t just get along?!  war
  • Feeling naive or foolish like love and compassion don’t really work in this world, so why bother?  

I’ve noticed some of these feelings in myself, and am starting to notice it more and more in the world around me.  Whether it’s first hand experience or a distant noticing, it doesn’t really matter, because we are all experiencing some degree of conflict or misunderstanding if we are honest.

So why is that?

How deep do you want to go?  Is it about us or them?  Where did all these hateful and fearful behaviors come from?  Surely it is not in me, it must be out there, right?

If you’ve studied spirituality long enough, one of the hardest lessons is you never get to blame anybody else.  No one else is the root of all evil.  No one else is entirely without good qualities.  It is so easy to judge and blame, especially if we are sitting on our living room couch watching the news.  It’s distant enough, so who cares if we throw a few expletives around?  Whose going to notice or hear?  

The truth is when we attack someone (even with our thoughts!) we are hurting ourselves.  

We are all energy and intent – and like it or not, we are all connected.  

Our thoughts matter.  Our thoughts about ourselves first and foremost, and our thoughts about the world and others.  

They carry a frequency and vibration that is palpable, and affect others and the world around us.

Yes, collectively, WE did this. Collectively we all have a part to play in the drama of life.

So, what part do you want to play?… 

Wait! – Does that mean if I suffer a real blow that isn’t my fault , that it is my fault?  Not really. It’s  not about blame, either way.  Just because it’s not out there, doesn’t mean you get to beat yourself up on the inside, either.  We’re all creators, and we have choices.  We can change our own way, not another’s.

The hardest part is realizing that no one is to blame.  That we are all insane at times, to some degree, and do things that we are not proud of. If we can own our  humanness, and not attack one another when we are down, we will have less distance to climb. In other words, your foe can become your greatest ally. 🙂

So, here it is, if you haven’t guessed already…

The sages of all the ages, the core truth behind all “truths”, regardless of faith, religion or creed – the one thing that binds all of  us together, and makes us accountable to every living thing, and every human being.  That’s right, every single one, without exception.  Yikes!

 

THE GOLDEN RULE

“Do unto others as you would have done unto you”  (Christianity)

“What is hateful to you, do not do to your neighbour,” (Judaism)

“Not one of you truly believes until you wish for others what you wish for yourself.” (Islam)

“Do not do to others what would cause pain if done to you” (Hinduism)

“Treat not others in ways that you yourself would find hurtful.” (Buddhism)

“Be as an angel unto others and they will be as an angel unto you.”  (Krista Moore)

 

I give credit to the Scarboro Missions for their Golden Rule initiative which publishes a beautiful poster of at least 13 religions/non-religions (and counting) which say the exact same thing.  This work is being carried around the world, to the United Nations, in schools, in workplaces and even nursing homes. Who doesn’t need to be understood?

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So, how can we do this when it is so hard to forgive? When someone else’s behavior is entirely unacceptable?  

Here are some ideas to give YOU peace of mind and find the GOLD in any situation:  

1. Ask yourself, “Where am I in this?”  Did I have any part in this drama?   

2. “Why am I taking this so personally?”  Maybe there is something deeper in me that needs to be addressed or expressed.

3.  Be honest about your own feelings and judgments without enacting blame on the other.

4. Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes for a moment and imagine what it is like to be them. Be curious. Ask more questions.

5.  Forgive the person, if not the action.  Take appropriate action when needed and set boundaries if required.

6.  Treat others as you wish to be treated.  Do not speak ill of them or yourself.  Wish for a positive outcome for all concerned.

7.  Be open to the good in any situation or person. Be open to miracles.

8.  Let it go and rest.

This is not as easy as it sounds!   Of course, sometimes I find myself taking things extremely personally. Then I have to ask myself if it’s about me or them?  After saner reflection, I often find it is my own fear of judgement that has gotten in the way, and I learn to forgive myself and them for helping  me see the difference.  After I find my way back to sane land, I am often grateful for the encounter and see the miracle it provided.

 peaceShorter Version – Ho’oponoono (Polynesian):

Silently or out loud (in private or with others), say repeatedly toward this person or group…   

“I’m sorry, please forgive  me, I love you, Thank You.”  

“I’m sorry, please forgive  me, I love you, Thank You.”  

“I’m sorry, please forgive  me, I love you, Thank You.”   

This is a beautiful prayer.  I have heard of people in prison being healed from this, and lives miraculously turned around. Do not underestimate the miracle of forgiveness.  

Who doesn’t need forgiveness?

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Good luck with this!  Let me know what happens when you apply any of these ideas.  

May your week be Golden and may you alight on angel’s wings!

Amen!

Krista 

 

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