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Discerning the Good & the True

How do we know what is good and true and worth believing in? How do we reconcile our beliefs when there is such a buffet of spiritual ideas and choices available to us, that it becomes difficult to discern?

When I am not sure which way is up, it can be a very uncomfortable feeling. No one wants to feel that what they thought or believed may actually be harming them, and what they’ve been fighting against might be the very thing worth hanging on to!  It feels embarrassing not to know sometimes, and to make mistakes. That is human. It feels good to come to understanding, discernment and trust in what’s good.

I had to re-examine some of my beliefs and their source this summer, as the din of choices and clashing worldviews became too much.  Even though I have always been very open to new ideas, my boilerplate to return to again and again, has always been Jesus. Even at my most esoteric or “woo-woo”, my life would always find its way back to him. I was never an avid Bible thumper, though I believed in most of its tenents, while priding myself on being well-rounded and having many, many tools in my toolkit.

I read and studied A Course in Miracles and, though difficult at times, I found the loving tenants of never attacking others, loving your brother as yourself and forgiving everything from a place of purity not piousness, truly rewarding spiritually.

 

We have to care for our souls in a way that feeds

and nourishes us, without sacrificing what is

good, while boldly letting go of what is

no longer useful.

 

This lesson became very apparent as I faced my garden this summer…

In my garden there were many plants. I failed to weed for many years leaving a wildness that is beyond “wildflower” and more like weed failure. I felt guilty and didn’t want to hurt anything (what a great way to justify not doing anything!).  I felt paralyzed and overwhelmed by the chaos staring back at me – neglect; and too many possibilities of what could be better, that I didn’t know how to implement it on my own.

I needed the help of a qualified gardener, someone who could discern weed from flower, and help me face the weeds, pull them out, and even cover patches with yard bags to suppress them and make way for fresh new soil – a clear space, a clear mind…

And then we planted. We planted only what was beautiful, what was not competitive or strangling other plants, what grew where it was planted and complemented the other flowers. Not to mention created a buzzing haven for butterflies, birds and bees!

Within a month or two of real work, I had a beautiful garden. And that simple beauty allowed me the peace and clarity of mind I needed to do the necessary tending of the garden to protect and prevent those weeds from returning.

If something is beautiful, good and true,

we are more likely to protect it.

 

As above so below…

In the same way, in my spiritual life, I had allowed certain things in my life that I once thought were “OK” from a broader “everything is good, don’t judge anything” perspective; upon further reflection, study and surveying of the results of my actions, I had to reconsider them. And though they got me where I am, holding on to them did not bear good “fruit”.

For example, I found some ideas or tenets of the new age spiritual world a bit too permissive, or self-centered, and not in line with the basic guidelines of right and wrong, good and bad, which although not popular anymore, were created to protect us, not to harm us. It’s not popular to “judge” others for their choices, but it is very necessary to discern for myself.

Some things have to go into the fire of self-

reflection, release and purification…

 

Now I am starting to see the beauty, goodness and truth of a work in progress, without seeking outside of myself for instant gratification. I am slowly letting go of what no longer serves or resonates with me, and starting to see the value in doing the harder work of planting and protecting what is truly good and beautiful (like family, friends, service and spiritual life).

Where I once saw something as more desirable because it seemed easily attainable, instant or popular, I now see these ideas more like the “wildflower” weeds that grew up unabated in my garden, strangling out the flowers, and needing to be tamed.

I learned that I must not only nurture myself out of self-interest, but also consider the hopes, dreams and needs of the ones around me who depend on me, just like those beautiful flowers in my garden, for water, protection (“weeding”), light and love…

Each of us has to decide for ourself what is worth

keeping and nurturing, and what is not worth our

time or effort after all.

My “Internal Gardener” or Teacher helps me keep things straight on the path of mental, physical, emotional and spiritual growth.  When I get confused, weighed down by too many options, too much information, or regret, I go within, and take the time to sort it out.

It is my own conscience which tells me what is true and good, which path leads home, which Voice leads to a more loving outcome, and which leads only to sorrow, fear and pain.

Then my heart can sing again, as I embrace the miracles that come from creating and focusing on the good and the true in my life, and forgiving everything else…

The purity of our hearts (and not our heads)

will always lead us home to You…

Thank you!

Amen!

 


Krista Moore hosts “Channel of Light” blogtalk radio show where she channels live for guest callers and listeners to help them receive guidance and healing; and Miracles Grow Here events for those seeking on the spiritual path. For more go to: www.mooremiracles.com.

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How to Forgive Others

Sometimes “people” get the best of us (or so we think). The truth is, we are all suffering from the same dis-ease: being human!  Here is how I began to resolve this very human problem and achieve greater peace and clarity.

I had been tested lately, with an old pattern that caused me to be angry with myself and others. Just when I thought I was above all the madness, it hit me. And my irrational brain fired off chemicals of alarm and warfare. Things came out of my mouth that I knew were not true, and yet I felt they were. I would defend them to the death, even though I felt miserable saying them. I wallowed in self-pity and despair…
It took me days to figure this one out! How could I have been given so much insight and wisdom, and still suffer from this same problem? How long would it take to finally be rid of it and not feel such hate, such victimhood?

I was even angry at my angels for not saving me from this devastating problem. Although nothing on the outside was really wrong, on the inside I felt such pain and sorrow, and just wanted them to take it away and fix everything. Where was my miracle now? Now, I was really mad!

prayer angel

This was a very humbling dis-ease. It was a dis-ease of mind, that we all suffer from on occasion, some more than others. I couldn’t see the benefit to this kind of feeling, and yet I couldn’t quite let go of it either. I wanted revenge – not in some evil way, just a little punishment for the one who had offended or hurt me? These are not thoughts I am proud of, but I confess they were there. I wanted them to change and say they were sorry. I wanted them to come to me downcast and change their behaviour towards me. I wanted everything to change except me!

Does this sound familiar?

Be the change you want to see in the world. –  Gandhi

 

Then in my frustration and despair, I was growing impatient for a solution. But more than this, I wanted to understand everything so I wouldn’t repeat it. That was worth much more than a temporary fix or a ‘just make it go away’ attitude.

In my meditation I asked for the angels to help me. I was still angry, and I expressed all my feelings without holding back – I just let it all out, tears and all! Funny enough, there was a lot of grief under there – as many experts believe anger hides a deeper hurt, pain or sorrow. I saw this as a long-standing problem, not just a recent event. I wanted to resolve it at a deeper level, and be free of it. I cried out in pain, but what I was really asking for was love and clarity…

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Then it came. Though I was doubtful in my present condition that it was possible, I listened for guidance and it came. I heard the still, small, voice, this time in the voice of Mary (Mother Mary), and Jesus, who guided me to go up a little higher, in my consciousness or imagination, and stand with them in heaven. This was unusual. Usually, we ask them to come down to us! Well, this time, I was being asked to climb a little higher in my consciousness, and imagine that I could be raised up to where they were standing.

I arrived in what they call the “interlife” where souls go between lives, where we see the bigger picture and learn our lessons. I could see why this was a good idea, given that I wanted clarity, and couldn’t see it at all from my limited perspective.  Instead of seeing with human eyes, they asked me to stand side by side with them (squeezing their hands) and looking out upon the world and my situation through their eyes and my newer perspective, and then to tell them what I saw.

Then it came to me. I saw that I was really being tested and challenged to overcome my anger, not just for myself, but for all of humanity.  My healing was healing everyone involved!  I no longer blamed myself for this problem, and saw that it was something that affected me and many, many more for generations, including those I had been angry at!  If I could overcome this anger and learn to forgive myself and them, I would be free, and in time, so would they. This was really a service, a difficult but very important service, and I was being guided and helped to make it through with flying colours.

All would be OK.

I also felt no anger while I was in that state of mind. I felt a peace and calm, with a sense of understanding and clarity.  I saw the purpose in everything. The situation and future were so much brighter than I had imagined! All things would improve if I could complete this one task. Forgive myself, forgive others, and let go of the anger. See it as a service, and remember the larger perspective. Then I would be patient, and not demand others change for me. I could see that it was me that was in the process of changing, being guided to a whole new way of thinking and being that would liberate both them and me.

This was good news!

For one who did not, in my limited smaller perspective, think it was possible to feel better about this, I did. The anger was gone from me. I didn’t need the other person to do anything to deserve this happiness for myself. I was forgiven. And I could enjoy happiness and peace of mind again. This was the lesson.

Forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespassed against us. –  The Lord’s Prayer

And with this renewed sense of calm and inner purpose, I began to write about this very topic, and share my insights with those who could be helped by them. And I could begin to enjoy being my wise, loving self again. 🙂

And that was a miracle to me!

 

P.S. Have you ever experienced forgiveness of someone and felt the benefits yourself? Share in the comments below.